A man from Alabama, US, who has been on 30 unsuccessful dates in the past ten months, has created a website offering a $10,000 reward to anyone who can find him a girlfriend, according to the business Insider.
Ren Lu You is a 29-year-old living in Birmingham, Alabama.
* (It’s worth mentioning that there could be a possible word play here. His last name is You … he says “I’ll pay you” … could he mean … he’ll pay himself?)
He’s a recent Harvard Business School graduate and works full-time as a private equity associate but cannot seem to find the right woman.
To remedy this situation, he created his own dating website, dateren.com, where people can submit female friends who might like to date him.
As an incentive, if Ren and a woman submitted to the site wind up dating for more than six months, he says he will pay $10,000 to the person who helped set them up (unless Ren’s future girlfriend submits herself, in which case she would not be eligible for the cash reward).
Finding the woman of his dreams is worth at least $10,000 to Ren. He compares finding a potential partner to purchasing other “big-ticket items” such as a car or a house.
“I would argue that all these things pale in importance to finding somebody you get along with and you may end up marrying,” Ren told BI. “So $10,000 seemed pretty reasonable.”
Before starting his own dating site, Ren was disappointed by his experiences with standard dating techniques.
“I’ve been on a bunch of dates and gone through all the usual methods: friends of friends, introductions through coworkers, OkCupid, Match.com, Tinder, everything,” You told Business Insider of his failed dating efforts.
Even though he was going on plenty of dates, he wasn’t meeting the kinds of women he envisioned potentially spending the rest of his life with.
“With online dating you have this problem of adverse selection,” You explained. “Only the people who self-select into a particular dating website are the people you have access to.”
Unlike other dating websites, women can be involuntarily submitted to Ren’s website.
“With this site I have access to basically everybody,” Ren noted to BI. “You don’t have to see the site or know who I am, you just have to know somebody who has seen the site.”
You made sure to let his family and friends know what he was up to before starting this new dating adventure.
“I understand there’s always the potential hazard of people thinking you’re an a—— and the internet deciding it doesn’t like what you’re doing,” Ren said of his concerns in starting the website.
For now, Ren is just trying to streamline the process of finding a woman who he can call his girlfriend, and maybe someday, his wife. “I’m trying to make dating as efficient as possible,” he said.
If you’re interesting in submitting yourself or a friend, check out Ren’s dating site here.